Friends and Families Friends and Families are always impacted by their loved ones. The problems we see in the other person seem apparent to us, why not them. Their methods of coping often cause change for us without our knowledge. It is like quicksand. Once you fall in, it is hard to get out. We don’t sink quite as quickly if we stay still. That’s what we do, stay still and adjust to them. The more we adjust, the more we slid deeper and deeper into their world, leaving behind our hopes, dreams, and who we are.

Are you living with:

  • Loneliness - Around them, but somehow not connected.
  • Secretive - You chose not to share anything.
  • Anger - Promises broken, their lack of responsibility.
  • Denial - Pretending the problems do not exist, or covering them up?
  • Guilt -You are somehow at fault, not enough, do not love them enough.
  • Stuck – You are stuck with them, they are holding you back.
  • Embarrassed – Either they make you feel embarrassed, or you are embarrassed by them.

A Recovery Coach works one on one with you to discover your needs now, and help you develop a plan for success in the future. When change is a must, we help you do it. Real help where you need it, where you live. We focus on today and build for tomorrow.

“What should I do to help him or her change?” NOTHING You cannot make someone change. Your first step in helping them is to help yourself. Any help for them has to come from physically and emotionally well people. Healthy people attract healthy relationships, healthy community, and other healthy people. Healing emotionally, learning coping skills, understanding ourselves, and how we got in this relationship, are all tools that help us to create the future we want.

Understanding needs, not wants, but our needs are a skill that is rarely learned. There is a difference. In recovery Coaching we will explore, discover, uncover those needs that we have put aside. Acceptance is a virtue, but when it comes to the self, should not be allowed. This is not just the way you are. This is not just your lot in life. You have the power to make decisions. You have the power to take control of your life. You have the power to build and create. Together we can do this. Alone it is very difficult.

Living with an addict/alcoholic can and is lonely and hard. You are not the reason; not the excuse. The truth is one of every six families in the United States is affected by addiction. Constantly reacting to the alcoholic/addict has unconsciously changed you. The defense mechanisms you have learned have crept into every corner of your life. .

Many family members are subject to physical abuse, sexual abuse and emotional abuse from the addict/alcoholic. A Recovery Coach can help you understand what abuse is, options that are available to you, find and get the professional help for anyone experiencing domestic violence. (Special Report on domestic violence, and what friends can do to help from the National Domestic Violence Hotline www.ndvh.org)

“What should I do to help him (or her) get sober?” Grow-UP. There is a lot you can do. You need to stop enabling them just to keep peace in the house. You need to stop tolerating them. You need to stop REACTING, and start acting. There is a lot you can do. But it all has to do with YOU, not them. In Recovery Coaching we will teach you how your actions keep the addict/alcoholic going, and how your actions can help them to help themselves.

Relationships that are toxic need to be changed. No one should have to live this way. Alcoholism and addiction affect 80% of Americans. That is why we specifically talk about this group. Most families do not realize the impact that addiction of all and any kind has on them. It is a slow powerful disease and left untreated only gets worse. You may believe that this is not in your house. The behavior patterns emerge as Obsession, Compulsion, and lack of self discipline, just to name a few. What are you trying to live with?


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